I have the best sister who reminded me when I needed it most:

"Sometimes we get so tangled up in our own perceptions of ourselves, what we think we're good at and what we're not, that we lose perspective, seeing only our failures and bad habits. Especially in difficult seasons, it's almost impossible to remember the feeling of being great at something, or the feeling of being proud of yourself. We reminded one another that night, we dreamed on behalf of one another. We pushed and encouraged and let the silences open wide every once in a while, to let things sink in and settle. Left to our own devices, we sometimes choose the most locked up, dark versions of the story, but what a good friend does is turn on the lights, open the window, and remind us that there are a whole lot of ways to tell the same story."  

Bittersweet: Thoughts on change, grace and learning the hard way by Shauna Niequist